The best part about your wedding is having everyone you love in one place at one time. Aunts, uncles, cousins, best friends and (may times) their significant others. People with whom you have shared experiences, and looking forward to adding this to your list of fond memories. Then, the subject of kids comes up. The subject of children at weddings is a buzzkill for almost everyone …with or without children.
People with children don’t understand why you don’t want their little darlings around, why they have to exclude their children (part of the family) from a family gathering. They do not always want to leave their children out of the celebration and if there is travel involved, how long do they have to make arrangements for their children’s well-being? They consider it a huge inconvenience and some parents will be resentful.
But, some people with children don’t always want to travel with them or take them to a fancy event. They would like to have a night out without worrying about who ate their vegetables and making sure someone uses the right spoon. No highchairs, no temper tantrums, no whining…just a night out with your spouse and a glass (or two) of chardonnay.
People without children would often prefer you leave them at home, find a sitter and be done with it. They haven’t bonded with children, they don’t need or want the worry of children ruining their event with bad behavior, out of control, touching things that don’t need to be touched. They are not as enamored with your children as you are.
Points to consider:
Kids are fun. they dance and laugh and eat cake. They will be all dressed up and probably not eat too much, anyway.
If you are paying $100 per person for dinner, how can you justify spending this much one someone who would probably rather eat McNuggets?
Kids are noisy – what if they can’t keep quiet during the ceremony?
Kids are messy. They will probably have filthy hands and want to touch the wedding gown or other things that don’t need to be touched.
There is also the age thing: What is the cut off? There is a big difference between a 17 yr old and a 4 yr old.
The simple fact is that if you don’t want children at your wedding, state it on the invitation and make sure you are prepared for the fallout. If you are allowing children at your wedding, state it on the invitation and be prepared for the fallout. Either way you are not going to make everyone happy.
Make your decision (as a couple) and move on, you have nothing to explain and no explaining will make a difference, anway. It is your wedding.
-Penny Frulla for Bridal Expo Chicago