Last week we unveiled one of the wedding trends that began developing in 2011 and will most likely continue into 2012 is downsizing. Many couples (not just those with budget restrictions) are opting for smaller, more intimate gatheringe where their dollars are spent on quality vs. quantity; having a luxurious, lavish affair for 75 people rather than a 350 person sit down dinner. The problem is, where do you draw the line?
How to keep your small affair a small affair:
1) Make your guest ‘wish’ list and decide on the exact cut off number. This list is the closest people in your life, the people you cannot live without. Decide immediately if you will be able to allow single guests to bring a date or parents to bring their children, stick to your guns and be prepared to have to defend this decision.
2) From the beginning, tell anyone who asks that you are planning a small, intimate gathering. This will prevent most from asking if they are invited. Be polite and tell them honestly, ” Jason and I have decided to have a smaller wedding and we will only be inviting family and our closest friends.” Of course, this means you should not be constantly talking about wedding plans to co-workers who are uninvited, save the juicy details for the maid of honor or your sibling.
3) Be prepared to get some flak. Some people will a) not think this is a great idea and b) be offended they are not invited. This is your celebration, it is your choice to handle it as you see fit. Whatever reason they give you for their dissenting opinion – ignore them.
4) As soon as you have whittled the guest list to the desired number, find and book your location. Once you have secured your location, everything will begin to fall in place and any negative feedback will be drowned out by the beauty of what you can accomplish for the same amount of money.
5) Keep the wedding party small. There is no hard and fast rule for this but, if the guest total is 75, stay with one or two attendants. Kate Middleton had only one bridesmaid and her wedding was enormous, keep that in mind.
The benefits of a smaller wedding are many; you can spend more money on things that really matter to you like an exclusive location, maginficent meal, extraordinary flowers, glamorous gown, elaborate invitations, A-list photographer and a sumptuous sweet table. In the end it truly is a matter of quality versus quantity.
-Penny Frulla for Bridal Expo Chicago