Weddings With Friends – TMI

Today I would like to ask a question of you: How much information is too much? You see, today I read an article about a couple who got married and posted every single detail of the wedding (from beginning to end) on every single social media outlet available. In fact, the article proudly stated that “Even Grandma was tweeting details from the reception”. WOW,  too much information. Without getting too graphic I am wondering when the tweeting and facebooking ended…. I think you know what I mean.

I understand staying connected and informed. I understand wanting to share the details with everyone out of sheer joy, boredom or whatever your motive. Be careful though, after a few drinks your updates may be embarassing the next day. Sitting in the doctor’s office the other day I found myself posting on facebook via my Android phone about how long I had to wait. Now that I think of it – who really cares?

I’m not talking about updating your friends and family when the whole thing is over or texting a dear friend who couldn’t be there. But, most of your nearest and dearest friends should be at your wedding, anyway… right?  I am talking about taking time away from the real celebration to constantly text, tweet, update and post. How much are you really enjoying yourself if you are spending the entire time using all of this technology? Did you even talk to the person seated next to you?

Maybe I’m wrong, maybe I’m old school but, at some point everyone needs to unplug and enjoy what is right there in front of you. Trust me – you will have a lot more fun if you step away from the touchscreen.


-Penny Frulla for Bridal Expo Chicago

Beat The Stress Of Holiday Weddings

If you are getting married over the holidays, you probably have a to-do list that is as long as your arm. Although this is the best time to blend a family celebration with a wedding , it is also the busiest time of the year for shopping, running errands and getting just about anything done. How do you handle all the stress?

1) Unplug. Make a certain time of day to unplug your cell phone, computer and do nothing. Even if it is for only one hour, the act of doing nothing will refresh your outlook. This is the perfect time for guilt-free nap, which can be quite beneficial.

2) Find a release. Engaging yourself in a hobby will occupy your mind in other areas. Don’t try to do anything too complicated, just get your mind off of the wedding and holiday planning. Crosswords and online games work just fine as does a round of zombe-killing on Xbox. Set a limit of 30 minutes a day or you may find yourself addicted to ‘Words with Friends’.

3) Release the endorphins. Take a walk, go to the gym or put on a workout DVD and get moving. Endorphins are natural pain and stress fighters that are released from the brain during  physical exercise (and intimate activities) . You can also get an endorphin boost from chili peppers and chocolate.

4) Ignore the voices. If your family is like mine and they all feel like their every opinion is so valuable that it needs to be voiced immediately, ignore them. When they call just tell them you’re busy and you’ll catch up after the wedding. They will try to drag you into a conversation but, avoid it.

5) Off- hours. Try calling business during non-peak hours so you aren’t wasting as much time on hold.  If you can, try avoid rush hour traffic as well since road rage can come out of nowhere and have disastrous results.

6) Pamper Time. According to the Mayo Clinic, taking some time out to do something you want to do for yourself can be the single most therapeutic thing you can do this time of year. Get your nails done, get a full-body or  foot massage or just sit and watch a movie you have wanted to see for a long time. Anything you have put on the back burner should be placed in the front  because pampering yourself  (even just a little) will help you unwind.

7) Drink. Even my 9 yr old knows that if you are feeling sluggish, a glass or bottle of water will perk you up. Carry a water bottle everywhere with you  and make a note of where the bathrooms are located. Drink early and often! For every cup of coffee, soda, wine, beer or juice, drink a bottle of water.

The last thing you want to do is ‘snap’. Over-scheduling, lack of sleep, too many energy drinks and family pressure can lead to an epic meltdown days before your holiday wedding. Taking it slow, sticking to the essentials, delegating responsibilities and staying hydrated will keep you in focus and out of ‘panic mode’.

-Penny Frulla for Bridal Expo Chicago